Todd and I have been married for seventeen years. Here is our secret. We go out every weekend on a date. Now, that sounds easy enough but it does take effort to get sitters, pay for them and then decide on something we BOTH would like to do. We have a serious nerdy date that is really our favorite. This is what we do. We both get massages at the same place but in different rooms. We decided it is NOT romantic to get a “couples massage”. Then, after strangers have relaxed us, we go to the bookstore and we each go to our individual sections and pick up books and browse through the store until we meet with armloads of things that interest us. Then, we share hot chocolate and desserts while we pour over our books. We may even throw in a discussion or two about our favorite books. Mature Discussion, imagine that! It is a nice evening of being together without really having any chance of arguing, discussion of the kids, or work. Marriage problems solved!